A Personality Just Ripe For Rejection

Over the past few years, I've made more mistakes with women than you can possibly imagine. In fact, I've seriously lost count of all the screw ups I've made. Now, initially I took this in an extremely negative way. The more mistakes I made, the more of a loser I became (at least that's how it seemed at the time).

It got so bad that I fully expected to be rejected even before I mustered up the courage to talk to a woman. In my mind, I was defeated before I even walked over. At one point, it was as though I had an insatiable thirst for rejection and humiliation and simply went from one woman to the other to see how much I could take - though it seemed like I was becoming immune to this mistreatment, every incident slowly chipped away at my fragile self-esteem.

So what's changed?

Well, I realized that a lot of my problem had to do with my maturity level. Although I didn't realize it at the time, there was just this thing about me that turned women off. Actually, it was a combination of a lot of things: immaturity, low self-esteem, lack of social skills, desperation, neediness, and the list goes on. Is it any wonder that I kept getting rejected?

Now the problem with getting rejected is that it becomes a self filling prophecy. Every rejection firmed up the fact that I was a loser - and on it went...

So you could say that the root of my problem was the negative image I was sending out. Even though most of the stuff was in my head, it was very evident that I was radiating some sort of negativity/desperation vibe.

It's amazing what people can pick up on - especially a woman to whom you are attracted. Needless to say, I had a lot of work to do on myself before I'd have any success meeting the girl of my dreams.