Nervous guys don't do well in the dating world. That is a fact. How do I know? Well, I used to be one of the nerdiest and most nervous looking guys you would ever want to meet. Women (and they didn't even have to be good-looking) would send my anxiety through the roof. It was so bad that I was simply unable to say a few words without looking like some kind of weirdo. Whenever I was around a woman that I would consider “dateable material,” I would change from my normal behavior into someone who could not even say hello without sounding (or looking) like I was going to pass out. This was very obvious, and was so embarrassing that most times I avoided any situation where there was any chance that I'd come into contact with the opposite sex. Sad, very very sad.
Some of the physical symptoms included blushing, sweating, and shaking. Oh, and worst of all, I felt as though my throat were constricting to the point that I could not speak. If I did try to say a few words, I always felt out of breath and the tightness in my throat resulted in any words having a peculiar high-pitched squeak to them.
So combine all this with the fact that I was at least 80 pounds overweight, I wore glasses, and that I was starting to lose my hair, and you've got one big mess. In fact, things couldn't have been any worse.
At one point, I decided that it was all in my head and that my physical symptoms weren't that noticeable. However, I was fooling myself. Of course women could see how nervous I was. They didn't say anything, but I could see how they were completely turned off by my lack of confidence
Why am I telling you this?
I suppose it's because I want you to understand that no matter how bad things are, there is hope for all of us. It doesn't matter who you are, whether you're overweight, have below average looks, or that you feel inadequate around women. If a guy like me can do it, anyone can do it.
Now, I'm not saying that I'm able to get any female I desire. In fact, many women are still out of my league – and that's okay – that's reality, and I'm okay with that.
Actually, having the ability to know when someone is out of your league is invaluable. This can save a lot of time and disappointment. I still laugh as I watch some guy hitting on a beautiful woman in a bar that literally has no chance whatsoever. Certainly, I can see that this guy is so far out of her league that it's almost laughable, but somehow no one has told him and he's screwed up the courage to give it a go. This is where good friends are invaluable. A good friend would never let you humiliate yourself like that.
Let's face it, if you have average looks, personality, and confidence, you probably shouldn't be hitting on the most beautiful woman in the place (unless, of course, you thrive on humiliation).Can you eventually get to the point where your personality and confidence is so strong that you can literally pick up any woman you want – regardless of your looks?
Well, lets just say that I've seen it done.
I've seen some very average, or below average, looking guys that have obviously mastered the technique of picking up any woman they desire. Personally, I have not achieved this level of expertise yet. In fact, it may be impossible for me to reach this level – but time will tell.