My ideal woman is married :(

Well, I decided to bite the bullet and sign up for a membership on one of the big three dating sites. It’s a little pricey, but I’m going in with the, “you get what you pay for” attitude. I’ve only been playing around with it for a few hours, but I must say that it seems a lot more robust, not to mention, more active than some of the other sites I’ve been on. I’ll check it out for a month and see what happens.

On the other front, the night class is coming along well. I have talked with all the older students at least once in the past 2 weeks. The younger people seem to have their own agenda, and that’s perfectly fine; I remember being young and indifferent myself, at one time.

The older group is pretty much separate from the 20 year olds, and that’s understandable. After all, we would have nothing in common anyway. As a group of 6, we all get along pretty well. We go for coffee some nights, and to tell you the truth, the company is enjoyable. It’s been a long time since I’ve been a part of any social circle at all.

All four women are quite friendly and personable. However, there is one that is head and shoulders above the rest as far as personality is concerned. I don’t know what it is, but she’s the kind of person that you want to hang out with. I can’t quite figure out why I’m so attracted to this woman.

The reality is that she is a free spirit. That’s her personality, and that’s the way she treats everyone. Still, I’m sure that she has had her fair share of proposals over the years. In fact, I might have had other intentions myself, except for the fact that she is happily married - and that is territory that I would never venture into. The world is still full of eligible women with great personalities. I just have to find one.

Free dating sites

Free online dating services are pretty much the norm these days as competition heats up among hosts. The best online dating services may, however, still be the paid membership sites. Although there are exceptions, most free services tend to be small operations trying to get into the market. The databases for these smaller dating sites tend to be sparse.

Now, as I said, not all free services are created equally. Most, so called “free” sites, are free with limitations. In fact, to actually contact someone you end up paying anyway – so why not use one of the big paid membership dating sites?

Having said that, there is one site in particular that has just as much traffic as many of the large pay sites and is, amazingly, totally free for a full membership– no strings attached. I always keep my profile on there because of the sheer number of members and the fact that new people are joining every hour.

I will probably give a paid dating site a try for the following reasons:

• The members are likely to be a little more serious about finding someone. After all, they are putting up their hard earned money to become a member.

• Many people that would never post their profile on a free dating site might choose a paid service for an increased sense of security. The fact that each and every member is held accountable for their actions (they have your credit card number) could be the deciding factor between someone signing up, or not.

• Spam and other nonsense will be non-existent. It’s too easy for spammers to join a free service – why pay?

• I am going to spend considerable time creating my new profile and I want to make sure it gets some quality exposure.

The top services charge between 20-30 dollars a month. I’ll probably get my profile ready and join one of them in a few days. There is no commitment, so if things don’t work out, I’ll be out a month’s subscription – not a big deal in the grand scheme of things.

Seeking datable women - I wish I were 20 again

The class is going well. If anything, I’m learning a lot of useful information that’s going to help me in my career. I’m also impressed by the quality of teaching. Our instructor certainly knows her stuff. She has a ton of real-world experience I’m told. Not only that, but she’s not a bad looker – unfortunately, she’s not only out of my league, but she’s married with 2 kids, a dog, 2 cats, and a bird. Can you say, “Spoken for?”

There are 22 people in this class – many of whom are younger than me. However, there are a handful (maybe 5) that are older and obviously there for some kind of professional skills development or continuing education – 4 women and one guy. He is around my age, married for 10 years, 3 kids, and is the only one I have talked to yet.

Of the four women, I have concluded that 2 are definitely married, one is very, very shy and quiet (but good looking), and the other is naturally pretty with a bubbly personality. There are quite a few single, younger women; however I doubt that they would give me the time of day, if only because of my age. Besides, hitting on younger women would just make me look creepy, and I really don’t need that.

One reality that I’ve had to deal with is the fact that there are not many single women in my age group. Most are married, or have been married, and have children. Now, I don’t mind kids, however, that is just another requirement that a guy like me would have to have (would he be a good father to my children?).

I envy the young guys in their twenties. Practically all the women in their age group are single. I really wasted the prime years of my life – oh well.

In any case, I’m just going to play things cool and see what happens. I wasn’t expecting to be overwhelmed with datable women of my own age anyway. I look at it this way: If I’m not out there, then fate will never have a chance to work its magic. I’m sure there are many people in this world that miss great opportunities because they are not at the right place at the right time.

It’s a numbers game, and I’m simply trying to increase my odds.