How to Meet Women

Men like things that make sense. We repair cars, build furniture, and spend our free time cursing tiny model ships in bottles. All of these things have clear cut systems and “how-to” procedures that make them possible to achieve, and that's what we like: instructions. Sure sure, we men are renowned for refusing to ask for directions, but the truth is we like a system that has clear cut goals and methods that allow us to reach them. But what's that have to do with meeting women? Well, as tricky and unique as women are, you can develop a general system for meeting them that works.

The truth of the matter is guys meet women everyday. You meet women in the grocery store, at work, on the bus or subway, in line at the bank. Everywhere. The trick is being able to turn these brief chance encounters into a date, and then series of dates that lead ultimately to a relationship.

Remember, you're making first impressions all the time. You might be thinking about leaving the house in your cutoffs and the tank top you mow the lawn in fellas, after all “nobody important” is going to see you, or are they? If you want to meet women, you have to remember that you might meet a woman doing anything, going anywhere. Be prepared for this chance. That means ditch the rags and pull on some decent threads, even if you're just running out to the store real quick.

You may be inclined to think that bars and clubs are good places to meet women, and for some people they probably are. But the truth is that for most of us, we'd be better off meeting somebody in a grocery store, gym, or even a public pool. Most people go to clubs or bars to do two things: drink, and “hook up.” This means that a large number of people in any given bar are either bouncing from disposable relationship to disposable relationship, or worse, they're alcoholic. If you approach a woman in a gym, or grocery store, you don't have to compete with any loud music or pushy drunk people. You can also use the casual setting to help you find things in common so you have something to talk about if you do get her to agree to a date.

Meeting women is easy. You do it all the time, every day, everywhere. You just need to spend a little time making sure you look presentable. Then casually express interest and see if you can get a date. Remember, in the end, if you don't ask, the answer is always “no.”

A Few Minor Changes Can Revive Your Social Life!

Do you ever get the feeling that you're missing out on most of what life has to offer? Do you feel like you're running out of chances to meet the girl of your dreams? Are you finding it incredibly difficult to meet women while most other guys seem to be having the time of their lives? Well, what you may not realize is that you've got every opportunity they have, you just need to change the way you look at things. Most importantly, you need to change the way you approach the concept of women and dating.

Basically, what it all comes down to is the way you're projecting your personality – the way other people are perceiving you. Though it may not be readily apparent, there's a good chance that you're not coming across as the guy you want to be, or can be. For this reason, it's vitally important to identify your weaknesses. Try getting the opinion of a trusted friend – what you're looking for is a real, honest opinion of how you come across to people.

Though the truth may hurt, it's important to know where you're making your mistakes before you can improve on things. Are you coming across as self-conscious, introverted, or tentative? Or do you tend to overwhelm people with your boisterous personality? Either way, there are certainly things about your personality that you can improve on and having outside opinion is worth its weight in gold.

So why can't you simply analyze your own personality and make the required changes? Well the problem is that you've gotten used to who you are and, in your mind, there is nothing wrong with the way you come across to people.

When it comes to meeting and dating women, there is a good chance that you're making some crucial mistakes that you don't even realize. Oftentimes, all it takes is a little tweak here and there and you'll see an incredible difference in your social life. For most people, it's simply a matter changing a few minor personality traits.

Even Average Guys Can Date Attractive Women - If They Have the Right Attitude

Are you convinced that only good looking, charismatic, successful guys get attractive women? Well, that's what I thought a few years back when I first started this blog, but I can confidently say after meeting and dating my fair share of women that nothing could be further from the truth. A lot has changed in my life since than – in fact, you could say that my entire outlook on women and life in general is completely different.

Originally, I started this blog as a kind of personal diary and a challenge to myself to get a full-time girlfriend within the period of one year. Just looking back at that now makes me realize how little I knew about women, dating, and my own potential to get out there and find/create my own happiness.

If you've read any of my previous stuff, you'll know that I had been carrying around a lot of emotional baggage back then. Everything from my weight, to my receding hairline, to my glasses – It just seemed that I really had nothing going for me at all.

Even after losing a ton of weight, getting contacts, and updating my wardrobe, I still didn't feel particularly confident. This really started getting me down because it almost seemed as though all that work was for nothing. Inside, I was the same insecure person I always was.

So what changed?

Well, I think my biggest epiphany came when I was on the verge of giving up completely. I was so tired of trying to be someone I wasn't just to attract women. It just wasn't me and as a result, I was failing miserably. I realized right there and then that I was just trying a little to hard. As a result, I stopped putting such an emphasis on the end result and adopted the attitude that whatever happened, happened.

Looking back, I'm sure that I was giving off desperation vibes like crazy. It's no wonder I couldn't attract anyone.

An amazing thing happened once I was able to do this. I actually started getting more women to talk to me. As amazing as that sounds, the less attention I payed to them, the more friendly they became. I know there are a lot of theories out there about this, but it actually did work for me – I honestly never would have believed it if I hadn't experienced it for myself.

To be honest, I had tried this hard-to-get tactic in the past, but I was never able to pull it off because I was making one small mistake. I wasn't playing hard to get, I was completely ignoring them. There is a huge difference. If you ignore women completely, don't expect them to be falling all over you – unless, of course, you are so good looking they just can't help themselves. Not only that, but it requires no effort at all to ignore people – it's the easiest thing in the world.

Acting with confidence while charming a woman - well, that's something different altogether. That actually does take effort.

When it's all said and done, it really is a very delicate balancing act. You want to impress her and get closer, but at the same time, you want to come off as if your whole world isn't riding on whether she likes you or not. Be confident, personable, charming, funny, and sincere, but slightly aloof. Never show desperation – even when you think things are going well. In other words, never show your hand.

Falling For Every Woman

In my last post, I talked about the importance of making contact with more than one woman. In other words, it's always a good idea to have a few options. If you want to know the truth, this is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. The main reason is that I have a tendency to fall for a woman very easily.

It can be a real problem when you're trying to play the field and exploring your options. As I mentioned in my last post, putting all your efforts into one person and then having them reject you for whatever reason is not a sensible thing to do.

Eventually, I started dating more and meeting more women. As a result, my tendency to start falling for the first woman I talked to seemed to diminish. I remember as a teenager being teased by my older brothers saying that the first woman who kissed me I'd ask to marry. I suppose they weren't far off on their prediction.

Throughout high school and college, I dated very little and I tended to be somewhat clingy with anyone that showed me even the slightest bit of interest. A lot of this had to do with my low self-esteem and confidence - but that's another story.

The bottom line is that I've discovered that by playing the field and making contact with as many women as possible, I was able to make a more mature and sensible decision as far as who I wanted to get serious with. It's not that I have 20 women at my beck and call, because I'm just an average looking guy; but I discovered that didn't matter anyway. If you put your mind to it, you can get out there and meet tons of people. Anyone can do this - I'm proof of that.

Don't Put All Your Eggs in One Basket

As I mentioned in my last post, you're not really doing yourself any favors by trying to be someone you're not. Eventually it's all going to come down like a house of cards. So, you are simply postponing the inevitable.

One huge mistake I used to make (and I still make sometimes) is that I simply bet everything on one woman. I'd concentrate all my efforts on one particular person and painstakingly tried to polish my act in order to get her to like me. Talk about putting all your eggs in one basket. Any guy who has success with women will tell you that this is a bad idea. It's much better to spread yourself around and have more options.

By not zeroing in on one particular woman, you're better able to play the numbers game - and, quite often, that's exactly what it takes in order to have success in the dating world. Let's face it: not every woman is going to like you. Don't worry, and don't take it personally; that's simply the way it is. There are no two people on the face of this planet that are exactly alike. Sometimes there is simply no chemistry, and other times there are extenuating circumstances that you're not even aware of. Often, it goes past a simple compatibility issue.

By having more than one option available to you, you are creating a much bigger advantage and eventual chance at happiness. While some people may think this approach may be a little on the sleazy side, I beg to differ. It's not like you have to sleep with every partner you come in contact with.

Besides, your true soul mate may actually be out there somewhere while you're wasting your time with someone that isn't your type. You're never going to know this unless you date different people. That is a fact and there's no way around it.

In my case, I quickly realized that my tendency to concentrate on only one person at a time was really my own lack of self-esteem and confidence. Once I was comfortable with one person, I found it difficult to stretch the boundaries and really get out there and try different things. As they say: if it ain't broke, don't fix it. Well, that's not exactly the greatest advice in the dating world, unfortunately.